Deciding to ask for help is an important first step. I hope it works out for you this time.
I understand feeling like you don't know how to grieve. I often feel like I never learned how to feel most emotions, so when things come up, I just shut down. If you find good advice maybe you can share it with others.
I listened to the audio version, rather than reading, this time & was really inspired!
I'm definitely adding a note to talk to my psychiatrist about getting help with grieving & information on grief support groups (or even a social worker) to help me as I know that I have never truly been able to grieve. I just don't know how to.
And as a previous comment mentioned, it's so important to grieve the life that I'm never going to be able to have. This is not a surrender or giving up scenario, rather the inability to ask for help.
Like a lot of things in life, we learn how to do things through our family & friends, but if we just don't understand or comprehend aspects in our upbringing, life is very difficult to navigate. We need help. We need guidance. We all need comfort & support.
I have previously requested assistance from my psychiatrist & during yet another psychology review, but because I "presented myself" as capable (or in others words) I was extremely good at masking, they could not offer me any support.
My next step, if I'm unable to get assistance from the national health service, is to go private. I don't mind doing this, if there is a good service available, but it's hard only having income from benefits.
Again, thanks for your continued posts & content. I always come away with more ideas & thoughts that help.
Grieving the life you feel you should have had is really, really important in severe mental illness and we don’t talk about it enough. Lovely to see you mentioning it.
Deciding to ask for help is an important first step. I hope it works out for you this time.
I understand feeling like you don't know how to grieve. I often feel like I never learned how to feel most emotions, so when things come up, I just shut down. If you find good advice maybe you can share it with others.
Hi Scott,
Such a great post, as always!
I listened to the audio version, rather than reading, this time & was really inspired!
I'm definitely adding a note to talk to my psychiatrist about getting help with grieving & information on grief support groups (or even a social worker) to help me as I know that I have never truly been able to grieve. I just don't know how to.
And as a previous comment mentioned, it's so important to grieve the life that I'm never going to be able to have. This is not a surrender or giving up scenario, rather the inability to ask for help.
Like a lot of things in life, we learn how to do things through our family & friends, but if we just don't understand or comprehend aspects in our upbringing, life is very difficult to navigate. We need help. We need guidance. We all need comfort & support.
I have previously requested assistance from my psychiatrist & during yet another psychology review, but because I "presented myself" as capable (or in others words) I was extremely good at masking, they could not offer me any support.
My next step, if I'm unable to get assistance from the national health service, is to go private. I don't mind doing this, if there is a good service available, but it's hard only having income from benefits.
Again, thanks for your continued posts & content. I always come away with more ideas & thoughts that help.
Peace - Love - Light
Namaste and ahimsa brother 😊🫂❤️✨
Grieving the life you feel you should have had is really, really important in severe mental illness and we don’t talk about it enough. Lovely to see you mentioning it.
Thank you, Sarah. I really think doctors should teach it when diagnosing someone. It took me years to realize I needed to grieve for that loss.
Totally agree that it should be covered in every WRAP plan or journal plan after an episode or diagnosis. Forewarned is forearmed.
This is so important, Scott. Especially talking about the loss... therapy helped me process the unexpected deaths of my dog and my godmother.
Therapy can be so helpful. I wish it was more readily available because so many people don't have access to it.