Are You Your Own Worst Critic (Like Me)?
Why what you say to yourself matters
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“Oh, Scott, you’re so stupid.”
The words were out of my mouth before I thought about them. Even though I had just made a bonehead mistake, it’s a terrible way to talk to myself. I would never treat a friend that way.
What do you say when you talk to yourself?
Words have power, whether spoken or written. It’s the reason you see advertising everywhere you look. From billboards to pop-up ads, words fill your view.
There are many words that no one else hears. They are the phrases you say to yourself or write in your journal.
Usually, we don’t think about those words because they are only uttered in our safe places. Those words, though, are just as powerful as any that are spoken.
The words you say to yourself matter. A lot.
“If you don’t like someone, the way they hold their spoon will make you furious. If you do like them, they can turn their plate over in your lap, and you won’t mind.”
- Irving Becker.
Scott Ninneman publishes two newsletters each week. The Sunday All Things Bipolar Newsletter features the newest content about bipolar life. The Speaking Bipolar Positivity Club Newsletter shares inspirational stories three times a week to help you maintain a positive mindset.
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I get it. I often beat myself up with my words. No one hears those words but they do their damage. It's a battle I fight every day.
Like me, you are probably your own worst critic. You are the one who hears every hurtful thing you say. You may even dwell on those painful phrases for days, weeks, months, or even years.
It’s time to stop.
When you’re being hard on yourself, remember how much power those words hold. They can make you believe things that aren’t true. They can make you feel like you hate someone who is so deserving of love.
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Love yourself
Love is a funny thing. When your heart is full of butterflies and fireworks, the person you love can do no wrong. Even if you see their mistakes, you look the other way.
Love is powerful, but you are as worthy of it as anyone.
Liking yourself is crucial because it allows you to see the good in yourself. It allows you to be kind to yourself. And, when you are kind to yourself, you are more likely to be kind to others.
If you don’t like yourself, you will find fault in everything you do. Everything will be dark and painful, and no one wants that life. It’s time to return to the light.
The next time you catch yourself being hard on yourself, remember that words have power. Choose your words wisely. Be gentle with yourself. And, most importantly, love yourself. Your love is vital for your mental health and well-being.
Journal Prompt: What are some of the negative things you say to yourself? How can you turn those words into positive statements?
Creative Writing Prompt: You're invited to dinner with the queen at her palace. The meal starts, and a server drops a plate of food in your lap. What happens next?
Until next time, keep fighting.
Scott Ninneman
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